Esther Perel makes an astute observation about the demands we place on modern day love in this enlightening TED talk and must-read book, Mating in Captivity. We really do expect so much from our romantic partners: love, desire, familiarity, novelty, accountability, mystery…the hypocrisies go on forever. This is essentially the first time in human history where we have expected to have sex with the same person for years without the purpose of having ten children because 5 will die, without the knowledge that the marriage was a real-estate transaction (pre-industrial revolution) and without the convenience of a lover/concubine/mistress on the side. We want passionate, fulfilling, monogamous love and sex with the same person for life?! How is this possible? She tries to tell us how.
About this Blog:
My intention is to create a forum to critically discuss sexuality, gender, sexual media, and social media by integrating information from academic and mainstream sources. I do this so you can be informed about what is going on in the sex research world and apply the research to your life. I hope this process produces more sexually competent people who raise sexually competent kids.
I am a sex researcher, sex educator, MSU professor, and National Institute on Drug Abuse Fellow. This is my blog.
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